The No Contact Tracker
You picked your number. Now you have to hold it, and the hardest part isn't day one. It's a random Tuesday three weeks in, when one little text feels harmless. This tracker holds the line with you: it counts your days, hands you the right work at each milestone, and resets the clock when you slip, because that's what really happens to the clock.
It's the companion tool to my no contact rule guide. The guide explains why silence works. This page helps you actually do it.
Private by design. Your dates never leave this browser. No account, no email, no app to download, and nothing sent to me or anyone else. Close the tab and come back; your count will be here.
What counts as breaking no contact
People hunt loopholes harder than they hold the line. All of these reset the clock:
- Texts, including memes, song links, and "this made me think of you."
- Calls, drunk dials, and voicemails you swear were accidents.
- Liking their posts or reacting to their stories.
- Watching their stories at all. Watching is chasing, silently. Mute them.
- Pumping mutual friends for intel, or having one "casually mention" you.
- The happy-birthday text. I know. It still counts.
The one exception: if your ex reaches out, you respond. Warm, short, light. Replying to their message is not pursuit, and it doesn't reset your clock. Never ignore, never pursue.
Kids, coworkers, a shared lease
Logistics contact isn't pursuit. If you share kids, a workplace, or a lease, keep that channel warm, brief, and boring, and count your days anyway. I wrote a separate playbook for exactly this: the low contact protocol.
A counter can't promise your ex comes back. Nobody can, and anyone who does is lying to you. What it can do is stop you from lowering your own odds while you rebuild. Every act of pursuit lowers the probability. Every held day raises it.
The tracker holds the line. The plan is what the line is for. My free training walks the whole arc: no contact, re-entry, and what to say when the line reopens.
Watch the Free Training Read the No Contact GuideAnd if this is more than heartbreak — not eating, not sleeping, scary thoughts — put the counter down and call or text 988 (US). Coaching isn't therapy, and nothing on this page matters more than you being okay.
FAQ: The No Contact Tracker
Is there a no contact app I should download instead?
You don't need one. Most no contact apps want an account, notifications, and a subscription for what is, at bottom, counting. This page counts your days, gives you the coaching at each milestone, and keeps your breakup off anybody's server. Bookmark it; your count is here when you come back on this device.
What day of no contact am I on?
Day one is the first full day you didn't initiate contact. Enter your start date above and the tracker counts it for you, milestones included.
Do I have to restart if my ex texts me?
No. Only initiating resets the clock. When they reach out, respond warm, short, and light, handle any logistics, and let the conversation close on its own. Never ignore, never pursue. Your count keeps running.
How long should no contact last?
About three months for most serious breakups, and never more than six. Short relationships with clean breaks can run 45 to 60 days. If your ex is avoidant or you begged hard after the breakup, take the long end. That's clinical observation from coaching, not a peer-reviewed timeline.
Where is my tracker data stored?
In your browser's local storage, on your device. Nothing is transmitted, logged, or shared, and I couldn't look at it if I wanted to. Clear your browser data and the count goes with it, so bookmark the page and stick to one device.